by Joshua Carll
Everyone’s seen that little red monster at least once in their life, but sometimes, it’s seen more frequently than we would like. Dr. Charles Spielberger, PhD in psychology, who specializes in the study of anger, describes anger as “an emotional state that varies in intensity from mild irritation to intense fury and rage.” Anger is an emotion that comes out when people try to defend themselves or feel threatened by something or someone.
It is healthy to express your anger, but when is enough, enough? According to Better Health and the American Psychological Association, if you keep anger bottled up, it can lead to emotional and physical problems such as headaches, abdominal pain, heart problems, low self-esteem, anxiety, high blood pressure, depression, and passive aggressive behavior. If you fly off the handle at every pin drop, someone will end up getting hurt because of verbal or physical attacks.
Anger explosions mean that someone has little control over their emotion of anger and can blow up whenever. This is scary because the person is like a ticking time bomb and whenever there’s a time bomb, there is always some kind of damage left over.
Managing anger is not as hard as it seems. Some people say don’t walk away from your problems, but sometimes walking away from a situation will help cool you down and clear your head. Physical activity like sports or running can help burn up all that energy that is helping fuel that anger. If you go work out, you’ll become stronger, fit, and healthier because your anger is being released in a recreational way.
Another thing you can do is talk about your problems or write your emotions down on paper. Talking diplomatically is probably the hardest way to calm down because you have to relax your voice and keep an open mind. Nothing can be accomplished when you are seeing red.
Anger is not always a bad thing. It can be a beautiful emotion when you know how to direct it for recreational use. “It is part of the emotional spectrum inherent in the evolved, complex creatures that we are. Anger is a given. Our job is to make it beautiful” says Patricia Adams Farmer, author of Embracing a Beautiful God.
I believe anger is a beautiful, yet misunderstood emotion because it can show that someone is passionate, strong, and in a sense, caring about a certain topic or person. I do admit that this is not always the case. Sometimes, anger gets out of control and can endanger others. It is all in how you use and express anger that makes it beautiful or deadly.
Just like drugs are beneficial because they can help the sick and heal infections/ailments; so is anger when it is redirected to creative use. It is the misuse of anger can ruin lives and damage reputations just like the uncontrollable use of drugs. Be mindful of your choices and get the best of your anger before your anger gets the best of you.