Hook ups and downs

by: Joshua Carll

There are six types of bullying in the world today. From domestic and physical, to verbal and cyber. One type of bullying is caught in the middle and that is sexual bullying. Sexually bullying is making crude jokes about what someone does or what you “think” he does in his sex life. The bullies also humiliate the target and make him feel very uncomfortable.

One of the biggest forms of sexual bullying is slut-shaming. The international pop singer, Ariana Grande, once wrote “if a woman has a lot of sex (or any sex for that matter)…she’s a ‘slut.’ If a man has sex…HE’S. A. STUD. A BOSS. A KING…. If a woman even TALKS about sex openly…she is shamed!”

Slut shaming is an epidemic. It is “starting to become a major problem. It has a tremendous impact” and “could ruin people’s reputations” which was found in an article on nobullying.com. From the way that people carry themselves and dress, to what they say and do.

Before the 1960’s, having sex with strangers was considered unpopular, but during the 60’s, having sex with random people outside of marriage was a more common practice. College campuses and parties are where hookups thrived. In society today, hooking up with others is a social norm, but people still get slut shamed for it.

When straight guys sleep around, they are idolized and applauded. People call them “players” and act like they just won a game. Gay men who sleep around with others are called “man-whores” and girls that have sex with others are called “easy”. We should have more respect for each other and that means accepting each other’s life choices. According to expert Vern L. Bullough, American historian and sexologist, author, RN, and Dean of Natural and Social Sciences at Buffalo State College, “people should have the right to enjoy sexual pleasure as long as they are being ethically responsible.” Sex is more of a hobby now. “If, for example, you want to be intimate with someone when you first meet them, if you are on vacation and want to have a fling, if you are at a wedding and want to have a romantic escapade, or just a one night stand, the most important thing is to know what you are doing and why you are doing it. In other words, own it,” said Dr. Jane Greer, marriage and family therapist, and recognized expert on love, relationships, and sex. So many people are uneducated when it comes to handling the bullying of slut-shaming. There is no special way to go combat this issue. If your friend is going through a difficult time with being slut-shamed, the only thing you can do to help is to show her support and remind her that she is not alone. Enough with the judgment of society, we need to come together and fight for the respect that every human deserves, no matter what their life choices. Let’s get together and end the shame.

According to Pew Research Internet Project:

– 27% of internet users have been called offensive names.

– 19% of internet users said they witnessed someone sexually harassed.

– 16% of women age 18-24 have been stalked online.

– 25% of women age 18-24 were the target of online sexual harassment.

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