By Kristen TantilloStaff Writer
It’s hard to look for the light when you are lost in the dark.”-Anonymous.
Every nine seconds, a woman is battered in America according to http://www.Rileycenter.org. Domestic abuse is the number one killer of women in America. Even if muggings and car accidents are combined, it does not add up to how many women are beaten and killed. Over 95 % of women who are in relationships are battered, says the Bureau of Justice Statistics Special Report. They also state that this abuse caused 30 percent of women physical defects and disabilities. About 5 billion jobs are lost in America due to this violence, because of the employee’s absenteeism.
Being the most unreported crime, this abuse is present in 60 % of marriages. People wonder why these women let this abuse run their lives and often their children‘s lives as well. 90 % of abusive relationships are witnessed by the victim’s children, says the National Crime Statistics Report. Women who are beaten down have a greater fear of leaving than to staying. These victims will do whatever they have to avoid the traumatic episodes of violence. Trying to please these impossible tyrants is exactly that, impossible. No matter what it is never good enough.
If the victim puts effort into her appearance, her spouse will immediately suspect she is cheating, and will be “punished” for looking presentable. If the victim does not put the effort out into her appearance, her husband will verbally abuse her, which will quickly turn to physical abuse. It is a lose – lose situation. Take action and seek help. Abuse is never okay for any situation. Set up emergency transportation, safe housing, emergency food, and clothing and flee.
“To be a survivor–first you must bleed. You bleed all that was inside of you: the pain, the memories, the fear, the wounds fusing together, the ties to what was in, all its forms. You bleed not once but several times. And when you are empty, you either fade into a shadow or find the strength, and courage to live. When you stand up again, you are for a time, hollow–empty, like a bottle of beer lying on the street, cracked and reeking of its bitter contents. Then you fill yourself up with the new, your recreate yourself–you reform. You don’t have the same heart or mind. The way you see the world is forever changed.”-Lynn Marie, domestic abuse victim.
If you or someone you know is being abused, hotlines are available. Completely confidential : (1-877-448-8678). Online help is also offered: e-mail firstname.lastname@example.org.